Who made you Judge/God

Blog 9-

Who Made You God

    I find a lot of times, we have to ask ourselves, who made you God? I've been on both ends of the issue. Lives are taken daily by people, who feel it's their right. God is the only one that should make those decision. I have a major pet-peeve when folks say, "well it's their time." No their time has ran out because of the stupid choices some people have made. Someone dates your old girlfriend/boyfriend, you don't go and shoot them. I'm a wrong to voice my opinion because wrong is wrong. Sin is sin, there are no levels, it just is.

      I feel, I've never killed a person so I have a right to voice my opinion. Hold on but I've dated the dope man. A man who pushed tiny little killers on the street. Folks kill for it, rob for it, leave their children hungry for it, and do some ugly things once they get it. So I'm not guiltless but the grace and mercy God. I could think of a million things to talk about but why not talk about situations that I've been through. I find it is easy to cry the blues about what folks have done to you but what have you done to folks. I once didn't have any type of relationship with my dad. I was so angry at my dads drug addictions, an addiction is an addiction, point blank.

     It's easy for us to judge and point fingers at others who we feel fall short but what about our short comings. I was addicted to alcohol, that was my selected poison. That's why when people turn their nose up because they feel, "I think I'm better then them" when I say I don't go out. I could go wherever I please. I believe God gives us wisdom and if he delivered me from drinking, why would I be in a club or bar. People need to realize, we have to know ourselves because the devil knows our weaknesses. So in all, after The Lord delivered me, I could understand the fight and the hell my dad goes through every time he makes a effort to be clean. I can also see where he goes wrong but instead of fussing and pushing him away, I listen and pray for him. I told him, once GOD delivers you, you will be free and your not going to care what any of us think. When family throw your past up, you won't run back out and buy no drugs, you will smile and say but God. We run from our faults, retreat when our past is brought up but God.

     How is it so easy for the church family to forget, our father is one so we are all linked. More love, less bickering and yes less bickering. There is a group of saint right now, ranting and raving over sinners sinning right now. Less talking, more praying. The sinners will sin. Let's be honest, EVERYONE sins daily that's why you pray for forgiveness when you wake up and you pray for forgiveness when you go to sleep. I'm always telling people to be kind and to love. Be kind because you and me, we are all fighting something. Our mouths can push folks away from God just with our attitudes alone.

     You are NOT God, you can't sit around and pick whose flaws are forgivable or whose soul is worthy of being reached out to. Stop playing God saints, our job is to reach out to everyone, near, far, high, and low. I find it humorous that when damage is done, folks rather remain blameless. People ride around on their "high horse" putting down sinners and other church folks. They wouldn't dare clean their mirror off because then they would see what we all see. Your not on no horse, your standing there just like all of us, trying to get this thing right and make heaven your home. That's why I thank God for being in a church where I know he sits upon the pastor. I remember going through all types of hell and I remember being invited to church by about five people.lol. I have hundreds of Christians on my Facebook page, well correction "people that go to church". I'm okay with that now because I'm where I need to be. No, I'm not discrediting anyone that's in church but the Bible states you will be known for your fruit.ijs.

     People will beat you with the Bible, turn their nose up at you, all while sending your soul to hell before you die, shame on you. We are NOT God but in some people lives, we might be the only God they see. How do you want people to view our savior? What we as a church family have to realize is some people have a bad taste in their mouth because of some of us. It's not up to us to say, well it wasn't me or I didn't do it but we are a family. So ALL of the body of God needs to band together and get to fixing things and showing love. God wasn't nasty or fussing among his disciples so why are we. The way the world is going now, less judging, more fasting and praying. Why do folks in church have to be asked to pray and fast now days. You mean y'all don't feel it in the air, when your driving, sometimes when you sleep.

     That yawning for souls that are lost and dying daily. Before you can have a revival, your connection with God must be revived. Reach out to someone today. I'm always so emotional when I talk about God because I'm so grateful, that he hand-picked me. I didn't even talk about God or much less listen to people talk about him. He saved me, now I serve him. He loves me, so I love all of you. He has shown mercy and grace to me daily, why would I not show mercy and forgive you. He forgave us ALL first. Now, let's share his word, let's love, and allow God to be God. Through him ALL things are possible don't discount anyone because their sin is different from yours. He died for them too.

Sidebar: There is a thine line between Opinions and Judging- are you speaking life with your opinions or killing with judgement.

I thank all of you for taking the time to read my thoughts, my prayers are that we all make heaven our home. Blessings and love you all of you
Sonya Bridges

The Greatest Act of Love is Forgiveness!!!

Jesus says,"There is no greater love then a man who lay down his life for a friend." Jesus went to the cross because of the love he had for us. He loved us enough to be a human sacrifice, that's some deep love. We as humans will fail and hurt one another but we must forgive. Being hurt by someone you love will happen and the growth of your relationship with God will show in how you forgive. The worse of the worse happened to Jesus and he forgave them before it even happen and through the hate he still laid down his life. He had a love so deep he died not only for us but for those that put him on the cross. Let that sink in.

    Humans fail over and over again but his love covers us, all we have to do is ask. We as people rather run to people and things that can't fix us or tend to make our situations worse. We have confused, lust with love. We have confused fear with love. We have confused hurt with love. Though we are required by God to forgive in order for us ourselves to be forgiven. No one says, it will happen over night but where there is forgiveness there is true love.

     I've been in and out of love in my 31years on this earth. I am just now knowing what REAL love is in 2014 and that's the love of God. I feel until you know God and his love, you are not capable of truly loving anyone. God is love and if we know not the author of love, how can you give it to others. Now don't get me wrong, it's not always easy but neither was dying for a person that would reject him. He forgave me, a person who didn't pray much less listen to church talk, and I tried running as far as I could from God. He opened his arms to me with love. I struggle somedays more then others but I hold on to God and trust that he will see me through.

     Being in the presence of Gods love, won't allow me to just settle for any ole thing, my father is The True King, I'm his heir, and will be treated as such. That's how I know I didn't know true love because true love don't hit you, disrespect you, break you down, make you feel empty, and doesn't suck life from you slowly. See love is kind, humble, slow to anger, long suffering, gentle, and patient. It's many things but fear is never one of them. Again I quote Jesus saying, "no greater love then a man, who will lay down his life for his friend". Knowing what I know now, I love my friends different, I'm not a cheerleader for dumbness, petty dramas, and I love them enough to tell them the truth with love because the truth sets you free and can also bring you to the light. What kind of friend was I, when I was encouraging drinking and driving, fighting and carrying on. I love my children better now, it's a love so deep, and I'm fully aware now that my children belong to God. I'm borrowing them so I will guide them as he leads me.

     I have a love for myself now that's crazy and it's hard to explain but with God inside me, I love and it's not that ole fake love but it's real. I feel my heart break when those I love take light at being saved. I have to remember love is patient so I go to God daily, lift their names up, and hold on to the faith knowing they will one day be saved. However, I feel so peaceful at times, somedays I might be having a bad day but his love ways make me circle back. The love that we have through God helps us be steadfast and to strive daily. In knowing we will not be perfect but be consistent in The Lord. I was searching for this story book love and it was waiting on me my entire life. I didn't find it in the club, the bottom of a bottle, the end of a pack of cigs, in many countless beds I hopped, or in forcing myself in peoples life. I found peace through letting the weight of bitterness go, forgiving and I received my peace and love through receiving God. The greatest love of all, is the love of God, your storybook ending is making heaven your home.


I pray this will bless someone.
enjoy and thanks for reading.
Writer:Sonya Bridges

Above All Else I must Be Saved!!!

We live in a day and age where, nobody wants to discuss HELL. However, where there is a heaven, there is a hell. Where there is saved, there is unsaved. Where there is peace, there is chaos. We are living in the last days and that's a sermon that can't be avoided. Yes, love conquers all but the truth shall set you free. I see how when everyone dies now days, nobody is EVER not saved, how do you not speak up. For when you know it's required of you to share the gospel of Jesus Christ. Don't it bother you that souls are going to hell, it weighs heavy on my heart daily.

     So this part of me, I'll share with you today. I'm not very fond of a lot of religions but I'm particularly fond of the personal relationships people have with God. Churches tend to argue facts on this or that but there are some things in the Bible that can't be talked down. I'm the type that, I'll respect people and their choices but I will not debate what I understand to be true. I believe in the choice to agree to disagree respectfully. I was baptized in Jesus name and filled with the Holy Ghost as a child. Somewhere I lost my way, was hateful and many others things, but I'm back. Glory to God for helping me find my way. People will say, you don't need the Holy Ghost, God knows your heart, and you don't need to be baptized??? So many good hearted souls are lost because they don't know Jesus or haven't followed the plan of salvation.
     This is going to go deep as I explain my walk and why I believe what I believe. Repent of your sins, Be Baptized in Jesus name, and you will receive the gift of the Holy Ghost. I've known people to receive the Holy Ghost before being baptized. However repentance is the first key, admit your faults, your not admitting because you will live a perfect life thereafter. You might fall but see the Holy Ghost on the inside of you will help you daily, I'm a living testimony. I've had several people try and debate me over Being baptized in the Father, Son, and the Holy Ghost? That's not going to get you into heaven. I'm sorry to offend but I must tell the truth. Those are merely titles, where is that name. Something about the name Jesus, it is the sweetest name I know. See the God in the New Testament IS the same God in the Old Testament.
      I do know while there was baptisms by John the Baptize in the Trinity, he himself tells us of another required baptism. John the Baptize said, "There is one that comes after me, who's shoes I'm unworthy to fill that will baptize you with the Fire and Holy Ghost." You see the key, the whole plan is in Jesus. Without his blood shed, we would have nothing to cover our repentance. Without his death, we would have no Holy Spirit inside us, therefore our destiny would not be heaven. So when your get baptized in The Father, The Son, and The Holy Ghost, those are just titles, there is no name present. Where is the power mentioned. I know a lot of times it's what we have always been taught so I get it. That's why reading the Bible, all of it, is fulfilling to the soul. I learn something new every go round. Example, my name is Sonya but I'm a daughter, sister, cousin, niece, and a mother. Will you address me as such or will you address me as Sonya?
     People will argue but why did Jesus cry out Father while being crucified because the spirit left him and he was just flesh, remember God knows NO sin. Jesus prayed if the cup could pass because he knew he was the sacrifice and all the torment and pain, he'd go through. He said not my will but your will. Jesus was without sin and had every sinned committed into him and he forgave them because it had to be done. Jesus was a REAL man when he died, he felt everything for you and me, he knew our mess before we knew our mess. How can people not see, I pray this is received in Jesus name. Research the Bible if you don't believe me but there is no medium between heaven and hell. There is no place that after you die, you can say forgive me and get saved.

      The Father is God(the spirit), The Son is Jesus(the spirit wrapped in flesh, sent to die for us), the Holy Ghost(is that spirit that's on the inside of us once we receive it).God is Jesus and Jesus is God. Jesus said it himself and people still don't get it, "No man comes into the Father but by me." You have to go down in Jesus name and there is no short cut around. People want to sprinkle their face to resemble being baptized. When your out all day in the heat or is just dirty, do you just stick your face in the shower or do you emerge your whole body? Someone said, "how do you know God is real?" I said, "well how do you not know or see that he is real." It's funny cause God has a way of letting you know he is real. My life is far from perfect but my best unsaved day can't hold a candle to my worse saved day. I might of had it all but I was lost. Now I have it all cause I don't fear where I'm going because as long as I got Jesus I'm free.
 
   I wrestled with doing this blog for weeks but I couldn't shake it. I remember crying to one of my family members, and I told her this new love that God has put inside me enables me from keeping him to myself. I have to share what I know because I want us all in heaven, the passion I have for the Bible and Jesus outnumbers my emotions of making someone upset. You know that God says, before everyone dies or appears before judgement that EVERY single last human on EARTH will hear or see the plan of salvation. No person will have an excuse. I can imagine a person saying but Lord I knew not, and he is like but yes, remember that blogger you thought was crazy or that billboard you read, that church you visited, that holy roller co-workers words, you just didn't receive it. I can't even fathom what the Atheist says at the gate, I mean your standing before the "Shekinah Glory" himself and you think what, your in a walking dream? People always say, when the time is right, Jesus said there would be signs, look around us, the time is now, the bridegroom(God) is coming. Tomorrow is not promised to any of us, and wherever a tree falls so shall it lay. I thank God for not letting me die in my sin, and I offer myself daily and ask him to use me not for the saved but for the lost.

You have to have a relationship with him to even get into heaven. Imagine if you pull up to a strangers home, walked in and sit down to eat, you are going to have some problems because they don't know you. How is it that we have this idea that folks that don't live for him much less know him are dying and going to heaven. They don't know him!!! I can only pray someone that needs this, reads this, and that no one was offended. I'm just a vessel and can only pray this is received. I beg those that don't know him to try him, he did it for me, he will do it for you. I'm not promising you a perfect life but a life of freedom.



Thank you all/Be Blessed

Random Situations On My Mind

    People always say, "when will enough be enough." Ummmm when it is enough clearly. The world is full of talkers but problems are not being solved. I've seen women, including myself, go through some mess. Now days I'm the one sitting on the fence, drinking her tea, waiting for it. Boom there it is, the same reason they were pissed at me, for saying, " I can't keep getting punched on." That would be the same reason they leave.smh. Reason why I will never say leave or stay in a relationship. Everyone has that line in the sand, some peoples are a little further then others. Either way the person on the outside don't win ever with giving advice on leaving or staying in a relationship. Lord forbid if your single. We are lonely broads with big mouths or so I heard. Lol. Now, check this real quick, marriage doesn't mean happily ever after and single doesn't mean lonely.

    I have a high tolerance for pain so does that make it okay for a man to beat my butt at any given opportunity. It's the same with love just because that woman made a choice to love and forgive a man, doesn't make it okay for him to continue on being a dog. I do however understand that if the woman allows it, then it will happen? Excuse me for thinking, there is just some stuff you don't do and are taught not to do as a child. Keep your hands to yourself is taught at a very young age. Everyone on this earth is giving a name use it. We don't need our names remixed with B**** this or H** that and Punk this or Weak N**** that. My personal favorite, if you can't keep your legs closed or it in your pants stay single. The perks of being an American and living in the land of the free.

    I'm sick of the excuses that we are always giving some black men, and yes I just went there. Man up because women are over it. How is it, if it's praises your open to claim responsibility for the act. If it's criticism you push the plate away and fall into the land of excuses. Okay you ain't have no parents, you ain't the first. Your dad was absent, okay and your point because your doing a awesome at repeating his mistakes. You lived in a bad neighborhood, okay and? That's all I know, well learn something different. It falls on death ears to me because if your not taking responsibility for your actions their being excused. I have to pray constantly not to be rude or one sided because personally I'm over most of you excuse makers. It's hard to respect a person that have not a ounce of it for themselves.

    I happen to know some awesome men that have been through hell and back growing up and they turned out awesome. Not always perfect but they embraced what people thought would hold them down and used it as stepping stones to move up. I understand it's different weaknesses and strengths for people based on the individual. However you have to be willing to learn and to do better. Life will not force greatness on you. You have to decide whether to fight against the odds stacked against you, or fold and lay there. If you make the choice to lay there, own your mess and stop with the excuses. I hate when something negative happens in our community and it's no wow factor. I mean really we been dying and been screaming fix it, fix it. I'm not shocked anymore, I'm sad because I know lessons are not being learned when some black men are excused for all the mishaps or the things they lack. Some black women are excused for carrying on as if home training doesn't exist.

    I hate to see the young die, I hate seeing young super criminals, and I hate seeing young people locked up. I hate that black women hate each other and are always ready to jump bad. Maybe the lady looking at you thinks your beautiful but nope that's just impossible (sarcasm). I'll be in the store and I'll speak, and they will roll their eyes or don't even acknowledge that someone addressed them not all but most times. Their children see and is learning it's okay to be rude because mommy great at it. Since when is it wrong for someone so say something to your child, if your child is out of line. I've seen and heard of parents cursing folks out for addressing their children in front of the child. Lol. So again you say what we going to do, no what are y'all  going to do. I'll lift you up in prayer but I'm not standing in the line of fire for people that don't feel their wrong or need help. Prayer is best policy because we adults are the reason 95% of the time, the children act the way they act. Let's fix ourselves so our children can follow our lead.

     I'm always annoyed by people always posting these we need to or change this rants. Hello, friend find a mirror, repeat all of that wonderful stuff you just typed to yourself. You have to be the change you want to see. I mean in real life not just in ARIEL FONT life. I mean to strive daily to be the change you want to see. Stop with the excuses. For example my name is Sonya, if you feel the need to call me anything other than, hold that thought. Keep your hands to yourself women and men. Take up boxing, get a hobby that relieves stress. We are in the land of the free be single if your not ready for commitment. Women be women, men be men it's simple but we make it hard. No life is smooth sailing but it can be a lot nicer if you wanted it to be. Being happy is a choice and we choose our choice everyday.

Love yourselves, life is too short to be at odds with yourself because of self hate.  Only deal with people that enhances your light, shine bright at all times. Avoid joy stealers. Forgive even though it's hard to do sometimes. Forgive because it's not making their life better but yours. Ladies mostly but some men as well, if you get back with your partner after they've had a discretion, don't throw it up every time you get mad. If you can't get past it, keep it moving. Trust me I know, I was on and off with a man for TEN years wondering why it wasn't working. Well duh, I'd taken a man in my bed on repeat that I hadn't forgave and still had a lot of bitterness towards him. I believe time heals all not in a certain order but I believe it eventually the scabs fall off, scars might be left but at least you made it through the war. Excuses will never make you better, but will eventually shake your foundation loose.


Thanks for reading/Blessings to you all

Why Vs Why Not

Why vs Why Not!!!

    Am I the only one to notice that folks are always asking why this or why that. People tend to always want to know why, when in fact if you tell them why, then what? Right absolutely nothing. We live in a world were a lot of times people do things and have no clue as to why. Let me tell you all why I do some of the things I do. I was asked, "what made you want to write a blog?" I said, "my mind is full of so much, and I might as well share,so why not".

      I find myself praying a lot and asking God for direction, and prayer over how the message will be received. That's even if it is received. Now this is coming from someone that didn't pray or want to pray ever. I don't know if I come across as bragging but sometimes I'm so excited about the change that God has and is still doing in me, I can't shut up about it. I'm so shocked by the "dead on the pew" Christian, because being able to feel God everyday moving and touching me, it's overwhelming. I find myself, crying because God has become the best thing I know so why not share him. I'm happy to read my Bible and pray every day, not because I want brownie points because I love God so much, so why not.

      I mean people can brag about college degrees but I can't brag about leveling up with my Jesus, come on now. I tell my oldest, he came be anything in this world and I'd be happy. However, to see him saved, is apart of my peace because that's the greatest accomplishment. I see pictures my friends post and I see them filled with the Holy Ghost having a shout and praise Monday through Friday. I look at my old turn up crew and I see them feeding the homeless and winning souls for Jesus. So why not let them see me happy in Jesus because soon it will be all of us. My life has become not just mine but I'm working for a higher purpose. That purpose is to reach as many people as I can for God's glory. Why not, I'm super cool, why not be, cool people going to be in heaven too. Lol. Just had to throw that in here.lol

      My relationship with him causes me to be joyous and loving, wanting to tell everybody I come across. Sometimes I get overwhelmed by the love he gives me because I know I'm not worthy. But God!!! So why not!!!! People say, your boring now but I'm okay with how people see me because I only truly care how God sees me. See I was a wild card, a men's LADY but not ladylike at all. I was so many negative things, I had a major issue with any type of church person. Let me just be honest, I didn't like but like three christians and I'm serious. I never truly loved and appreciated anyone foreal. I would be with men, I knew I'd never in a million years love or want to love. They were meat to me and I dined and dashed. Having so much taken at a early age, I was a manipulator and just not the nicest person. God broke me all the way down, to do in me what must be done.

      I remember in 2013, I had gotten extremely ill, ended up losing my job while off sick. I was so angry because I couldn't speak and when I spoke nobody understood me. So I had to write notes to my son and my doctors/nurses. Now, I always told God if you want me, come get me yourself. I didn't want to deal with church folks. So since I couldn't speak, I only had God to talk to. See when I tell you when God works, sometimes it can be painful and uncomfortable. I asked that if he remove me from that dark place, I'd never go back there if he stayed with me. I use to hate people and I'd hurt people because I felt people deserved the same pain that I'd dealt with.

      I felt if you wanted mercy, get it from God. I prayed that if he'd fix whatever was wrong with me, I'd  lift him up daily. I'd love people with the love he has shown me. I'd forgive people, if he'd forgive me. I'd live for him and if I fail, I'd get back up. I begin to speak to him daily and I haven't stopped since. I ended up losing my job and people started falling off, he pulled so much from me. Stripped me bare so he could work.

      So when I'm posting scriptures, talking positive, and happy about God. The reason is just know that I'm alive and well so why not. When I think of how far I've come , why not. When he didn't allow me to die in my mess, why not live for him. I can offer so many explanation but why. So I just think why not. I laugh because humans remember your flaws and love throwing them at you, why? I say why not, I'm absolutely fine with a friendly reminder on just how good God is. I sometimes look at old pictures and laugh at the devil because God saw the best in me even when I was in my mess.

     Why do I avoid certain drama filled people not because I think I'm better but because God has been too good to even allow certain dramas and things to get me off track. So why not steer clear. I'm far from perfect but I want the best in me to be used by him for his glory. I never really thought I'd be in anyone's church but why not, the God I serve is too good to pass up on a praise meeting. People wonder why I'm okay with people walking away from me that I love, when it's family it hurts but why not be okay. I'm a passenger, God's driving this car and he knows best. So why hold on to something God has obviously been trying to break apart. Why not let it/them go. In the words of a awesome man of God, Let it go!!!! So if you ever wonder why I'm the way that I am now, don't just be thankful that I am. The light is far better then the darkness. So there you have a little bit of Sonya Bridges.



Thank you all again and be blessed

Hate Will Never Build, Always Tear Down!

Part 2) My PREFERENCE is just that mine. I SUPPORT you not because I AGREE but because I LOVE you.

Preference—noun
the act of preferring.
the state of being preferred.
that which is preferred; choice: His preference is vanilla, not chocolate.
a practical advantage given to one over others.

Agree—verb (used without object), a·greed, a·gree·ing.
to have the same views, emotions, etc.; harmonize in opinion or feeling (often followed by with ): I don't agree with you.
to give consent; assent (often followed by to ): He agreed to accompany the ambassador. Do you agree to the conditions?
to live in concord or without contention; get along together.
to come to one opinion or mind; come to an arrangement or understanding; arrive at a settlement: They have agreed on the terms of surrender.

Support—verb (used with object)
to bear or hold up (a load, mass, structure, part, etc.); serve as a foundation for.
to sustain or withstand (weight, pressure, strain, etc.) without giving way; serve as a prop for.
to undergo or endure, especially with patience or submission; tolerate.
to sustain (a person, the mind, spirits, courage, etc.) under trial or affliction: They supported him throughout his ordeal.
to maintain (a person, family, establishment, institution, etc.) by supplying with things necessary to existence; provide for: to support a family.

Love—noun
a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
sexual passion or desire.
a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
(used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like):


   I could of postponed this specific blog forever because it's a tough issue to address. So here goes me and my mind. Have you ever held a person in high regard and then was let down by them. The answer is yes, I'm sure because we have all let someone down, at some point. I'm a firm believer in supporting those you love no matter how much you disagree with their life choices. I always wonder why in families they seem to have a family "love" but not a family support. When the chips are down your family should be your biggest fans or at least uplifting . Do you know millions of people die from suicide due to family issues or families shunning them due to their life choices.
    When there is a group/family of individuals you can love each other but without support how do they hold each other up. For when one is weak the other is strong and vice versa. How can you love a person your repelled by or be a witness to them. We as Christians love to add God in our methods of non-support. Without remembering that God stood out most when he sat with the sinners, cause people wondered why a man so great could sit with sinners. See those that don't have God in their lives need you to sit next to them without a turned up nose or judgmental eye. Maybe just seeing your life, would attract them to you, like bees to honey but a lot of times it's quite the opposite. Not all people are asking you to agree with their transgressions/choices but want to see the love in you that your so quick to talk about. I promise you won't be condemned to death if you hug a homosexual person or a "sinner".
 
  I made a choice not to be homosexual so instead of holding up repellant spray towards homosexuals, I'm straight tada:) People are so bothered and in a uproar by someone else's choices that doesn't affect them or their lives in any way, shape or form. Those we feel are sinners need a seat at our table more then the ones that already know him personally. A Christians destiny is to be a light to those in darkness, you can't be a light in a already well lit room.  Some of the people I love most in this world are homosexual and I can't turn my back because of their choices. I've probably done far worst and the God, I've come to know has picked me up despite the nasty looks and words I've had to hear from his "saints". I've found that the perfect Christian needs not God but to already be with him for their purpose is already filled. I've found that those striving to be like Christ can't pick and choose what they'd like to be but entirely like Christ.
     We have to remember that God wasn't a forceful God because then we would all be saved. He wanted us to choose him above all things and not force us. We have the Bible as our road map and it's our choice to apply it in our lives daily. Remember that when your turning your nose up or being one of those, " I'm too saved for this" type of Christians, he died for all of us and if he changed you, you mean your doubting OUR God now. He is the sinners fathers just as he is ours, they have a chance to come to him just as we did. Remember the greatest commandment, to love each other as he loves us. Once you clear the visuals and begin to see souls, you will get the bigger picture that our focus should be heaven and getting as many there as we can. Hate is not the door opener, be kind.                          
    Sometimes I feel we forget that he bare the cross for ALL our sins. Now, my mind travels to another area where I can't understand the "holier than thou" church folks. I get that you are striving to be saved daily but some folks act like their already perfect and made it, well bye! I know when I was in my mess and how sometimes I thought I'd never make it out in one piece or if I made it, I'd have some major damage but God. See some people have to go through whatever it is so they can walk in their purpose. We are not waking up daily just to take up a section in people lives, we are here for a purpose. Do you know sometimes we are in our mess for reasons and sometimes that reason is to tell somebody I been there, I know what your going through. Sometimes you need a fighting partner to have a fighting chance. How will that happen if your too good for the sinner or have already arrived.
    Sometimes I question the "god" some of y'all are serving. The God I serve is powerful, the way maker, fixer of all things, and the changer of anything. There is nothing to hard for him. So if we are serving the same God, how is it he can fix your mess but isn't able to fix another persons mess, nothing is too hard for God. When you look at what he did for you, see how he wiped the mud off you, and got you all clean again. You will seek the Lord for those that need him and embrace them. Too many that don't know God, don't want to know him because of people that are suppose to know him. I encourage you to love and I'm not talking about those that look and do as you do. I'm talking about those you have criticized and looked down on because you felt your sinful ways was lesser then their sinful ways.
    I challenge you that know better to do better. Of course I question the authenticity of your "Christianity" due to your actions, because you are being observed. Excuses from the church houses are getting old, be in or be out, pick one because both ways won't cut it. The sinner should be attracted to the God in you not repelled by the devil that lives in your closet. We can't pick and choose who souls are worth going to heaven. God says he died so all could come to repentance and be saved. How dare y'all pick and choose but claim to want these mass revivals. I say this not to talk down but ask for all of us to take a deeper look inside of ourselves and fix what needs fixing according to our God.
     I honestly believe that some Christian are blockers for some of the lost because of the nastiness we have put out. We as a whole body need to fix it. Our goal isn't to hate the sinner but to hate the sin. To remember we all need God at the bottom of the mountain just as much as we need him at the top. To reach where the loss is. To teach where there is the unlearned. To give what was given to us(love,grace, and mercy) To understand our God wasn't a forceful God but did give his church a job and that was to win souls for his kingdom.
     Spread the message of truth with love, knowing some might not receive it but love them anyways. Hate will only repel the ones we are suppose to reach. I'm going to be there to support the ones I love. Now I'm ending this blog but take this with you. Imagine if Jesus treating us the way we treat some of our family members and people in general because they do things we might not agree with, I'm pretty sure you would get more then tears. That's why I believe the commandment to love each other as he first loved us is the greatest commandment because God knew the future and knew that people would need love and support in their situation. That is not to have you agree or sway your beliefs because I stick to The Holy Bible to a T but I also love the way I want someone to love me. I'm there for friends and family not because I'm saying your doing to right thing and I agree but to say, wrong or right, I'm here and I got your back because the love I have for you outweighs our disagreements.
     If my family, friends, and people in general, see anything at all in me, I want them to see that I love genuinely because God is love and he first loved me. Always remember, if you don't like something then don't you do it, it's so simple. You don't like lipstick then don't you wear it. You don't like blue clothes then don't you wear blue clothes, see where I'm going:) I prayed for understanding and the words to say in my blog because I don't want to offend anyone but I post things close to my heart, what I observe,and I want people to take away the best parts from this blog.


 Thank you all, love to you all and be blessed.

Hate Will Never Build, Always Tear Down!

Part 1)What I prefer is what I prefer,
I'm my own competition,
Real not so much.

Do you all know it is okay and not the end of the world to have a preference.  We in society think if my preference doesn't match yours then it's a life altering situation. It's okay to completely do you and enjoy what you enjoy. I love vanilla bean ice cream not vanilla but vanilla bean. Do I really have to debate and fuss because of the choice I made. If you like vanilla ice cream then you eat vanilla ice cream, see it is just what you prefer. I'm all for doing whatever makes you happy, as long as people aren't getting hurt, your not doing it for someone else's happiness over Gods and yours or your not being forced and hurting yourself. I want what I want, my preference is mine, and I will not debate you over it. It's okay to agree to disagree, just don't try to make someone into what you feel they should be. Be your own fan and make yourself happy. Self Esteem, better get you some, have it for yourself, refuse to live without it, and if it get lost in the wind, go get it back. Love yourself, be awesome to you, and wake up everyday with your mind set on outdoing that person in the mirror daily. You are the masterpiece and nobody on this earth can be a better you than you. If you see your flaws, they are what make you better. Scars show a battle that didn't take you out, which means you made it through or is still making it through. Your life is your story line, never get mad because someone storyline might fit the idea of the storyline you want. Always remember what God has for you, it is for you. See when you reach that understanding you will have no room for hate or envy because your too busy working on self. Working on self is not always about being selfish but sometimes you have to pull back and be like self, "it's just us today." Self Esteem on point, Self Love on point and Competition being self, you have began to win your race. Now, you've conquered the inner hater inside of you, yes inner hater. I say inner because we first hate ourselves, we are hard on ourselves because we can't remember that we are humans too, sometimes. So we attack people in the way we wish to attack ourselves or vice versa. See the "inner hater" in us causes us to be too "REAL" or "BLUNT or "HONEST". Now allow me to explain, when we upset someone with our words or actions, the first excuse or reason we use is one of those three words just mentioned. Let me be "REAL" real quick, not every thought you think, needs to hit the surface. Stop to think is this message uplifting or damaging because it can't be both. Let me be "BLUNT" real quick, ever thought to just shut up with your real self and ask yourself will anyone die because I said nothing. Sometimes being blunt is just plain out rude. Let me be "HONEST" has been used in so many vicious ways, it's becoming a headache. People say, let me be honest then say some real messy things, my thing is just say what you have to say but say it how you would want it said to you. I know we get with our friends and do our girly thing but sometimes the things we say, friends or not are just mean and rude. I have been found guilty in all avenues just crossed, working towards being better daily. There is so much hate in the world, let's try to minimize our part in it. Remember your words are either speaking out life or death. Choose your words and actions wisely. Let's stay away from the shade trees and stick together as women/men. Being kind doesn't involve kissing butt but it's maturity and growth. It's free to say hello and to smile. Remember you stay up by being prayed up.


Love to you all and God Bless All of you

In and out relationships to avoid being lonely but your the loneliest person I know.

Why is setting yourself free such a struggle or has it become a thing of the past? We as people give out mind blowing advice that never reach the one in the mirror. We watch people in situations that seem bad to us and we compare them to the bad in our relationship. One bad doesn't outweigh another bad, bad is bad. A good relationship is really a perception that varies from one relationship to the next. I learned if I have to say, I'm glad my man ain't that bad, then he probably is that bad. Maybe we stay in situations to avoid being lonely, children, adjusted to the pain or became comfortable. It's easy to wear the shoes of the victim while asking to wear the crown of the victor. There is no pride in settling, growing up our parents or someone of leadership told us never settle, reach for whatever it is you want and don't stop until you get it. What I'm saying is there is no reward for telling people how much a person have taken you through and how you want to keep working things out, only to be left explaining again. Your reward comes from when you have made a mess into a memory. Staying isn't the hard part, walking away is, you love a person enough to release them and not hold them captive. I've talked about people staying, I've shook my head, and turned my nose up. Until, I could no longer see them lonely people in situations because the only person I saw was me in that huge mirror of reality. I was the drama, the score settler, the cryer, the revenge seeker, spiteful, hateful, self loathing, and loveless person. I saw in people and their relationships what was inside me and mine. I stayed in situations because I refused to be lonely but I had became the loneliest person I knew. Now, it's history because it's not where I've been but now it's where I'm going. Don't allow being alone to consume you and make you forget just who you are. In a relationship or not, be great and out do yourself daily. If a situation doesn't bring you joy or make you greater then it does the opposite. Don't jump in puddles then get mad cause you got wet. Let's stop making the choice to be in battles or storms by picking the situations we are involved in. Yes, we put ourselves in some of our storms and be knowing better. Put God first and make decisions based off him and look for that in a partner. Having patience helps, although it's hard but it's better then being in a jacked up situation. When you have God, you have it all because he is the giver of all things. When you have God your never alone and I remind myself of this daily.

Be Blessed All of you

I heard her say, but no she said!!!

Ladies all colors, races, backgrounds, I salute you for your brilliance, beauty, sexuality, but most of all a sisterhood, that we have inherited at birth.  Above anything else I salute you all because you ARE queens, we give birth to future kings and queens. We give without expecting, we are given Samson strength to get through tough times. We bounce back after hardships because we have to and that's all we know. We reach even though we don't see because it's better then waiting for handouts. I see us get caught up in situations with some that mean us no good. I have faith that my sisters will rise because I just cleaned the mud off myself.  Why does it seems that we have lost faith in the sisterhood. I see us forgive men for some of the worst betrayals but we will end a friendship over a  insecurity or a miscommunication. We will fight a female that owes us nothing over a man that we have given everything and owes us respect .  We fight only to look a fool for a man that isn't deemed worthy and could careless about you.  We women have to do better as a whole, I've been not so proud of plenty past moments but growth comes with change, and I'm better for it.  When are we going to be able to be genuinely happy for one another and less judgmental. I want to see women all across the world succeed. I want the "HATING" to stop amongst ourselves, be genuine and give compliments that don't end in but. Smh. Stop allowing men to pit us against each other, stand up for us, we are not a white, black, light skin, and dark skin war, we are a sisterhood that's getting slept on because we have allowed things and people to squeeze into the cracks of our barriers. We laugh when one of us is down and then kick them. We get no reward for bickering amongst ourselves, we do it for free and why?  We can excuse this behavior all day with but it's slavery mentality that excuse falls short because it's the now 2015  and it must stop.  I challenge you all to dismiss the, "I heard or No she said" people for thirty days and see how peaceful it becomes. It's a new year, let's show the world that a lot of us queens will make the choice to wear our crowns. I heard you are beautiful, I heard we all have made mistakes, I heard it gets better, I heard your down so here take my hand......😘 this is my first blog so don't be too hard on me please and thanks.... Salute to you ladies, you are great!!!