In and out relationships to avoid being lonely but your the loneliest person I know.

Why is setting yourself free such a struggle or has it become a thing of the past? We as people give out mind blowing advice that never reach the one in the mirror. We watch people in situations that seem bad to us and we compare them to the bad in our relationship. One bad doesn't outweigh another bad, bad is bad. A good relationship is really a perception that varies from one relationship to the next. I learned if I have to say, I'm glad my man ain't that bad, then he probably is that bad. Maybe we stay in situations to avoid being lonely, children, adjusted to the pain or became comfortable. It's easy to wear the shoes of the victim while asking to wear the crown of the victor. There is no pride in settling, growing up our parents or someone of leadership told us never settle, reach for whatever it is you want and don't stop until you get it. What I'm saying is there is no reward for telling people how much a person have taken you through and how you want to keep working things out, only to be left explaining again. Your reward comes from when you have made a mess into a memory. Staying isn't the hard part, walking away is, you love a person enough to release them and not hold them captive. I've talked about people staying, I've shook my head, and turned my nose up. Until, I could no longer see them lonely people in situations because the only person I saw was me in that huge mirror of reality. I was the drama, the score settler, the cryer, the revenge seeker, spiteful, hateful, self loathing, and loveless person. I saw in people and their relationships what was inside me and mine. I stayed in situations because I refused to be lonely but I had became the loneliest person I knew. Now, it's history because it's not where I've been but now it's where I'm going. Don't allow being alone to consume you and make you forget just who you are. In a relationship or not, be great and out do yourself daily. If a situation doesn't bring you joy or make you greater then it does the opposite. Don't jump in puddles then get mad cause you got wet. Let's stop making the choice to be in battles or storms by picking the situations we are involved in. Yes, we put ourselves in some of our storms and be knowing better. Put God first and make decisions based off him and look for that in a partner. Having patience helps, although it's hard but it's better then being in a jacked up situation. When you have God, you have it all because he is the giver of all things. When you have God your never alone and I remind myself of this daily.

Be Blessed All of you