Why Vs Why Not

Why vs Why Not!!!

    Am I the only one to notice that folks are always asking why this or why that. People tend to always want to know why, when in fact if you tell them why, then what? Right absolutely nothing. We live in a world were a lot of times people do things and have no clue as to why. Let me tell you all why I do some of the things I do. I was asked, "what made you want to write a blog?" I said, "my mind is full of so much, and I might as well share,so why not".

      I find myself praying a lot and asking God for direction, and prayer over how the message will be received. That's even if it is received. Now this is coming from someone that didn't pray or want to pray ever. I don't know if I come across as bragging but sometimes I'm so excited about the change that God has and is still doing in me, I can't shut up about it. I'm so shocked by the "dead on the pew" Christian, because being able to feel God everyday moving and touching me, it's overwhelming. I find myself, crying because God has become the best thing I know so why not share him. I'm happy to read my Bible and pray every day, not because I want brownie points because I love God so much, so why not.

      I mean people can brag about college degrees but I can't brag about leveling up with my Jesus, come on now. I tell my oldest, he came be anything in this world and I'd be happy. However, to see him saved, is apart of my peace because that's the greatest accomplishment. I see pictures my friends post and I see them filled with the Holy Ghost having a shout and praise Monday through Friday. I look at my old turn up crew and I see them feeding the homeless and winning souls for Jesus. So why not let them see me happy in Jesus because soon it will be all of us. My life has become not just mine but I'm working for a higher purpose. That purpose is to reach as many people as I can for God's glory. Why not, I'm super cool, why not be, cool people going to be in heaven too. Lol. Just had to throw that in here.lol

      My relationship with him causes me to be joyous and loving, wanting to tell everybody I come across. Sometimes I get overwhelmed by the love he gives me because I know I'm not worthy. But God!!! So why not!!!! People say, your boring now but I'm okay with how people see me because I only truly care how God sees me. See I was a wild card, a men's LADY but not ladylike at all. I was so many negative things, I had a major issue with any type of church person. Let me just be honest, I didn't like but like three christians and I'm serious. I never truly loved and appreciated anyone foreal. I would be with men, I knew I'd never in a million years love or want to love. They were meat to me and I dined and dashed. Having so much taken at a early age, I was a manipulator and just not the nicest person. God broke me all the way down, to do in me what must be done.

      I remember in 2013, I had gotten extremely ill, ended up losing my job while off sick. I was so angry because I couldn't speak and when I spoke nobody understood me. So I had to write notes to my son and my doctors/nurses. Now, I always told God if you want me, come get me yourself. I didn't want to deal with church folks. So since I couldn't speak, I only had God to talk to. See when I tell you when God works, sometimes it can be painful and uncomfortable. I asked that if he remove me from that dark place, I'd never go back there if he stayed with me. I use to hate people and I'd hurt people because I felt people deserved the same pain that I'd dealt with.

      I felt if you wanted mercy, get it from God. I prayed that if he'd fix whatever was wrong with me, I'd  lift him up daily. I'd love people with the love he has shown me. I'd forgive people, if he'd forgive me. I'd live for him and if I fail, I'd get back up. I begin to speak to him daily and I haven't stopped since. I ended up losing my job and people started falling off, he pulled so much from me. Stripped me bare so he could work.

      So when I'm posting scriptures, talking positive, and happy about God. The reason is just know that I'm alive and well so why not. When I think of how far I've come , why not. When he didn't allow me to die in my mess, why not live for him. I can offer so many explanation but why. So I just think why not. I laugh because humans remember your flaws and love throwing them at you, why? I say why not, I'm absolutely fine with a friendly reminder on just how good God is. I sometimes look at old pictures and laugh at the devil because God saw the best in me even when I was in my mess.

     Why do I avoid certain drama filled people not because I think I'm better but because God has been too good to even allow certain dramas and things to get me off track. So why not steer clear. I'm far from perfect but I want the best in me to be used by him for his glory. I never really thought I'd be in anyone's church but why not, the God I serve is too good to pass up on a praise meeting. People wonder why I'm okay with people walking away from me that I love, when it's family it hurts but why not be okay. I'm a passenger, God's driving this car and he knows best. So why hold on to something God has obviously been trying to break apart. Why not let it/them go. In the words of a awesome man of God, Let it go!!!! So if you ever wonder why I'm the way that I am now, don't just be thankful that I am. The light is far better then the darkness. So there you have a little bit of Sonya Bridges.



Thank you all again and be blessed

Hate Will Never Build, Always Tear Down!

Part 2) My PREFERENCE is just that mine. I SUPPORT you not because I AGREE but because I LOVE you.

Preference—noun
the act of preferring.
the state of being preferred.
that which is preferred; choice: His preference is vanilla, not chocolate.
a practical advantage given to one over others.

Agree—verb (used without object), a·greed, a·gree·ing.
to have the same views, emotions, etc.; harmonize in opinion or feeling (often followed by with ): I don't agree with you.
to give consent; assent (often followed by to ): He agreed to accompany the ambassador. Do you agree to the conditions?
to live in concord or without contention; get along together.
to come to one opinion or mind; come to an arrangement or understanding; arrive at a settlement: They have agreed on the terms of surrender.

Support—verb (used with object)
to bear or hold up (a load, mass, structure, part, etc.); serve as a foundation for.
to sustain or withstand (weight, pressure, strain, etc.) without giving way; serve as a prop for.
to undergo or endure, especially with patience or submission; tolerate.
to sustain (a person, the mind, spirits, courage, etc.) under trial or affliction: They supported him throughout his ordeal.
to maintain (a person, family, establishment, institution, etc.) by supplying with things necessary to existence; provide for: to support a family.

Love—noun
a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
sexual passion or desire.
a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
(used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like):


   I could of postponed this specific blog forever because it's a tough issue to address. So here goes me and my mind. Have you ever held a person in high regard and then was let down by them. The answer is yes, I'm sure because we have all let someone down, at some point. I'm a firm believer in supporting those you love no matter how much you disagree with their life choices. I always wonder why in families they seem to have a family "love" but not a family support. When the chips are down your family should be your biggest fans or at least uplifting . Do you know millions of people die from suicide due to family issues or families shunning them due to their life choices.
    When there is a group/family of individuals you can love each other but without support how do they hold each other up. For when one is weak the other is strong and vice versa. How can you love a person your repelled by or be a witness to them. We as Christians love to add God in our methods of non-support. Without remembering that God stood out most when he sat with the sinners, cause people wondered why a man so great could sit with sinners. See those that don't have God in their lives need you to sit next to them without a turned up nose or judgmental eye. Maybe just seeing your life, would attract them to you, like bees to honey but a lot of times it's quite the opposite. Not all people are asking you to agree with their transgressions/choices but want to see the love in you that your so quick to talk about. I promise you won't be condemned to death if you hug a homosexual person or a "sinner".
 
  I made a choice not to be homosexual so instead of holding up repellant spray towards homosexuals, I'm straight tada:) People are so bothered and in a uproar by someone else's choices that doesn't affect them or their lives in any way, shape or form. Those we feel are sinners need a seat at our table more then the ones that already know him personally. A Christians destiny is to be a light to those in darkness, you can't be a light in a already well lit room.  Some of the people I love most in this world are homosexual and I can't turn my back because of their choices. I've probably done far worst and the God, I've come to know has picked me up despite the nasty looks and words I've had to hear from his "saints". I've found that the perfect Christian needs not God but to already be with him for their purpose is already filled. I've found that those striving to be like Christ can't pick and choose what they'd like to be but entirely like Christ.
     We have to remember that God wasn't a forceful God because then we would all be saved. He wanted us to choose him above all things and not force us. We have the Bible as our road map and it's our choice to apply it in our lives daily. Remember that when your turning your nose up or being one of those, " I'm too saved for this" type of Christians, he died for all of us and if he changed you, you mean your doubting OUR God now. He is the sinners fathers just as he is ours, they have a chance to come to him just as we did. Remember the greatest commandment, to love each other as he loves us. Once you clear the visuals and begin to see souls, you will get the bigger picture that our focus should be heaven and getting as many there as we can. Hate is not the door opener, be kind.                          
    Sometimes I feel we forget that he bare the cross for ALL our sins. Now, my mind travels to another area where I can't understand the "holier than thou" church folks. I get that you are striving to be saved daily but some folks act like their already perfect and made it, well bye! I know when I was in my mess and how sometimes I thought I'd never make it out in one piece or if I made it, I'd have some major damage but God. See some people have to go through whatever it is so they can walk in their purpose. We are not waking up daily just to take up a section in people lives, we are here for a purpose. Do you know sometimes we are in our mess for reasons and sometimes that reason is to tell somebody I been there, I know what your going through. Sometimes you need a fighting partner to have a fighting chance. How will that happen if your too good for the sinner or have already arrived.
    Sometimes I question the "god" some of y'all are serving. The God I serve is powerful, the way maker, fixer of all things, and the changer of anything. There is nothing to hard for him. So if we are serving the same God, how is it he can fix your mess but isn't able to fix another persons mess, nothing is too hard for God. When you look at what he did for you, see how he wiped the mud off you, and got you all clean again. You will seek the Lord for those that need him and embrace them. Too many that don't know God, don't want to know him because of people that are suppose to know him. I encourage you to love and I'm not talking about those that look and do as you do. I'm talking about those you have criticized and looked down on because you felt your sinful ways was lesser then their sinful ways.
    I challenge you that know better to do better. Of course I question the authenticity of your "Christianity" due to your actions, because you are being observed. Excuses from the church houses are getting old, be in or be out, pick one because both ways won't cut it. The sinner should be attracted to the God in you not repelled by the devil that lives in your closet. We can't pick and choose who souls are worth going to heaven. God says he died so all could come to repentance and be saved. How dare y'all pick and choose but claim to want these mass revivals. I say this not to talk down but ask for all of us to take a deeper look inside of ourselves and fix what needs fixing according to our God.
     I honestly believe that some Christian are blockers for some of the lost because of the nastiness we have put out. We as a whole body need to fix it. Our goal isn't to hate the sinner but to hate the sin. To remember we all need God at the bottom of the mountain just as much as we need him at the top. To reach where the loss is. To teach where there is the unlearned. To give what was given to us(love,grace, and mercy) To understand our God wasn't a forceful God but did give his church a job and that was to win souls for his kingdom.
     Spread the message of truth with love, knowing some might not receive it but love them anyways. Hate will only repel the ones we are suppose to reach. I'm going to be there to support the ones I love. Now I'm ending this blog but take this with you. Imagine if Jesus treating us the way we treat some of our family members and people in general because they do things we might not agree with, I'm pretty sure you would get more then tears. That's why I believe the commandment to love each other as he first loved us is the greatest commandment because God knew the future and knew that people would need love and support in their situation. That is not to have you agree or sway your beliefs because I stick to The Holy Bible to a T but I also love the way I want someone to love me. I'm there for friends and family not because I'm saying your doing to right thing and I agree but to say, wrong or right, I'm here and I got your back because the love I have for you outweighs our disagreements.
     If my family, friends, and people in general, see anything at all in me, I want them to see that I love genuinely because God is love and he first loved me. Always remember, if you don't like something then don't you do it, it's so simple. You don't like lipstick then don't you wear it. You don't like blue clothes then don't you wear blue clothes, see where I'm going:) I prayed for understanding and the words to say in my blog because I don't want to offend anyone but I post things close to my heart, what I observe,and I want people to take away the best parts from this blog.


 Thank you all, love to you all and be blessed.

Hate Will Never Build, Always Tear Down!

Part 1)What I prefer is what I prefer,
I'm my own competition,
Real not so much.

Do you all know it is okay and not the end of the world to have a preference.  We in society think if my preference doesn't match yours then it's a life altering situation. It's okay to completely do you and enjoy what you enjoy. I love vanilla bean ice cream not vanilla but vanilla bean. Do I really have to debate and fuss because of the choice I made. If you like vanilla ice cream then you eat vanilla ice cream, see it is just what you prefer. I'm all for doing whatever makes you happy, as long as people aren't getting hurt, your not doing it for someone else's happiness over Gods and yours or your not being forced and hurting yourself. I want what I want, my preference is mine, and I will not debate you over it. It's okay to agree to disagree, just don't try to make someone into what you feel they should be. Be your own fan and make yourself happy. Self Esteem, better get you some, have it for yourself, refuse to live without it, and if it get lost in the wind, go get it back. Love yourself, be awesome to you, and wake up everyday with your mind set on outdoing that person in the mirror daily. You are the masterpiece and nobody on this earth can be a better you than you. If you see your flaws, they are what make you better. Scars show a battle that didn't take you out, which means you made it through or is still making it through. Your life is your story line, never get mad because someone storyline might fit the idea of the storyline you want. Always remember what God has for you, it is for you. See when you reach that understanding you will have no room for hate or envy because your too busy working on self. Working on self is not always about being selfish but sometimes you have to pull back and be like self, "it's just us today." Self Esteem on point, Self Love on point and Competition being self, you have began to win your race. Now, you've conquered the inner hater inside of you, yes inner hater. I say inner because we first hate ourselves, we are hard on ourselves because we can't remember that we are humans too, sometimes. So we attack people in the way we wish to attack ourselves or vice versa. See the "inner hater" in us causes us to be too "REAL" or "BLUNT or "HONEST". Now allow me to explain, when we upset someone with our words or actions, the first excuse or reason we use is one of those three words just mentioned. Let me be "REAL" real quick, not every thought you think, needs to hit the surface. Stop to think is this message uplifting or damaging because it can't be both. Let me be "BLUNT" real quick, ever thought to just shut up with your real self and ask yourself will anyone die because I said nothing. Sometimes being blunt is just plain out rude. Let me be "HONEST" has been used in so many vicious ways, it's becoming a headache. People say, let me be honest then say some real messy things, my thing is just say what you have to say but say it how you would want it said to you. I know we get with our friends and do our girly thing but sometimes the things we say, friends or not are just mean and rude. I have been found guilty in all avenues just crossed, working towards being better daily. There is so much hate in the world, let's try to minimize our part in it. Remember your words are either speaking out life or death. Choose your words and actions wisely. Let's stay away from the shade trees and stick together as women/men. Being kind doesn't involve kissing butt but it's maturity and growth. It's free to say hello and to smile. Remember you stay up by being prayed up.


Love to you all and God Bless All of you

In and out relationships to avoid being lonely but your the loneliest person I know.

Why is setting yourself free such a struggle or has it become a thing of the past? We as people give out mind blowing advice that never reach the one in the mirror. We watch people in situations that seem bad to us and we compare them to the bad in our relationship. One bad doesn't outweigh another bad, bad is bad. A good relationship is really a perception that varies from one relationship to the next. I learned if I have to say, I'm glad my man ain't that bad, then he probably is that bad. Maybe we stay in situations to avoid being lonely, children, adjusted to the pain or became comfortable. It's easy to wear the shoes of the victim while asking to wear the crown of the victor. There is no pride in settling, growing up our parents or someone of leadership told us never settle, reach for whatever it is you want and don't stop until you get it. What I'm saying is there is no reward for telling people how much a person have taken you through and how you want to keep working things out, only to be left explaining again. Your reward comes from when you have made a mess into a memory. Staying isn't the hard part, walking away is, you love a person enough to release them and not hold them captive. I've talked about people staying, I've shook my head, and turned my nose up. Until, I could no longer see them lonely people in situations because the only person I saw was me in that huge mirror of reality. I was the drama, the score settler, the cryer, the revenge seeker, spiteful, hateful, self loathing, and loveless person. I saw in people and their relationships what was inside me and mine. I stayed in situations because I refused to be lonely but I had became the loneliest person I knew. Now, it's history because it's not where I've been but now it's where I'm going. Don't allow being alone to consume you and make you forget just who you are. In a relationship or not, be great and out do yourself daily. If a situation doesn't bring you joy or make you greater then it does the opposite. Don't jump in puddles then get mad cause you got wet. Let's stop making the choice to be in battles or storms by picking the situations we are involved in. Yes, we put ourselves in some of our storms and be knowing better. Put God first and make decisions based off him and look for that in a partner. Having patience helps, although it's hard but it's better then being in a jacked up situation. When you have God, you have it all because he is the giver of all things. When you have God your never alone and I remind myself of this daily.

Be Blessed All of you

I heard her say, but no she said!!!

Ladies all colors, races, backgrounds, I salute you for your brilliance, beauty, sexuality, but most of all a sisterhood, that we have inherited at birth.  Above anything else I salute you all because you ARE queens, we give birth to future kings and queens. We give without expecting, we are given Samson strength to get through tough times. We bounce back after hardships because we have to and that's all we know. We reach even though we don't see because it's better then waiting for handouts. I see us get caught up in situations with some that mean us no good. I have faith that my sisters will rise because I just cleaned the mud off myself.  Why does it seems that we have lost faith in the sisterhood. I see us forgive men for some of the worst betrayals but we will end a friendship over a  insecurity or a miscommunication. We will fight a female that owes us nothing over a man that we have given everything and owes us respect .  We fight only to look a fool for a man that isn't deemed worthy and could careless about you.  We women have to do better as a whole, I've been not so proud of plenty past moments but growth comes with change, and I'm better for it.  When are we going to be able to be genuinely happy for one another and less judgmental. I want to see women all across the world succeed. I want the "HATING" to stop amongst ourselves, be genuine and give compliments that don't end in but. Smh. Stop allowing men to pit us against each other, stand up for us, we are not a white, black, light skin, and dark skin war, we are a sisterhood that's getting slept on because we have allowed things and people to squeeze into the cracks of our barriers. We laugh when one of us is down and then kick them. We get no reward for bickering amongst ourselves, we do it for free and why?  We can excuse this behavior all day with but it's slavery mentality that excuse falls short because it's the now 2015  and it must stop.  I challenge you all to dismiss the, "I heard or No she said" people for thirty days and see how peaceful it becomes. It's a new year, let's show the world that a lot of us queens will make the choice to wear our crowns. I heard you are beautiful, I heard we all have made mistakes, I heard it gets better, I heard your down so here take my hand......😘 this is my first blog so don't be too hard on me please and thanks.... Salute to you ladies, you are great!!!