People always say, "when will enough be enough." Ummmm when it is enough clearly. The world is full of talkers but problems are not being solved. I've seen women, including myself, go through some mess. Now days I'm the one sitting on the fence, drinking her tea, waiting for it. Boom there it is, the same reason they were pissed at me, for saying, " I can't keep getting punched on." That would be the same reason they leave.smh. Reason why I will never say leave or stay in a relationship. Everyone has that line in the sand, some peoples are a little further then others. Either way the person on the outside don't win ever with giving advice on leaving or staying in a relationship. Lord forbid if your single. We are lonely broads with big mouths or so I heard. Lol. Now, check this real quick, marriage doesn't mean happily ever after and single doesn't mean lonely.
I have a high tolerance for pain so does that make it okay for a man to beat my butt at any given opportunity. It's the same with love just because that woman made a choice to love and forgive a man, doesn't make it okay for him to continue on being a dog. I do however understand that if the woman allows it, then it will happen? Excuse me for thinking, there is just some stuff you don't do and are taught not to do as a child. Keep your hands to yourself is taught at a very young age. Everyone on this earth is giving a name use it. We don't need our names remixed with B**** this or H** that and Punk this or Weak N**** that. My personal favorite, if you can't keep your legs closed or it in your pants stay single. The perks of being an American and living in the land of the free.
I'm sick of the excuses that we are always giving some black men, and yes I just went there. Man up because women are over it. How is it, if it's praises your open to claim responsibility for the act. If it's criticism you push the plate away and fall into the land of excuses. Okay you ain't have no parents, you ain't the first. Your dad was absent, okay and your point because your doing a awesome at repeating his mistakes. You lived in a bad neighborhood, okay and? That's all I know, well learn something different. It falls on death ears to me because if your not taking responsibility for your actions their being excused. I have to pray constantly not to be rude or one sided because personally I'm over most of you excuse makers. It's hard to respect a person that have not a ounce of it for themselves.
I happen to know some awesome men that have been through hell and back growing up and they turned out awesome. Not always perfect but they embraced what people thought would hold them down and used it as stepping stones to move up. I understand it's different weaknesses and strengths for people based on the individual. However you have to be willing to learn and to do better. Life will not force greatness on you. You have to decide whether to fight against the odds stacked against you, or fold and lay there. If you make the choice to lay there, own your mess and stop with the excuses. I hate when something negative happens in our community and it's no wow factor. I mean really we been dying and been screaming fix it, fix it. I'm not shocked anymore, I'm sad because I know lessons are not being learned when some black men are excused for all the mishaps or the things they lack. Some black women are excused for carrying on as if home training doesn't exist.
I hate to see the young die, I hate seeing young super criminals, and I hate seeing young people locked up. I hate that black women hate each other and are always ready to jump bad. Maybe the lady looking at you thinks your beautiful but nope that's just impossible (sarcasm). I'll be in the store and I'll speak, and they will roll their eyes or don't even acknowledge that someone addressed them not all but most times. Their children see and is learning it's okay to be rude because mommy great at it. Since when is it wrong for someone so say something to your child, if your child is out of line. I've seen and heard of parents cursing folks out for addressing their children in front of the child. Lol. So again you say what we going to do, no what are y'all going to do. I'll lift you up in prayer but I'm not standing in the line of fire for people that don't feel their wrong or need help. Prayer is best policy because we adults are the reason 95% of the time, the children act the way they act. Let's fix ourselves so our children can follow our lead.
I'm always annoyed by people always posting these we need to or change this rants. Hello, friend find a mirror, repeat all of that wonderful stuff you just typed to yourself. You have to be the change you want to see. I mean in real life not just in ARIEL FONT life. I mean to strive daily to be the change you want to see. Stop with the excuses. For example my name is Sonya, if you feel the need to call me anything other than, hold that thought. Keep your hands to yourself women and men. Take up boxing, get a hobby that relieves stress. We are in the land of the free be single if your not ready for commitment. Women be women, men be men it's simple but we make it hard. No life is smooth sailing but it can be a lot nicer if you wanted it to be. Being happy is a choice and we choose our choice everyday.
Love yourselves, life is too short to be at odds with yourself because of self hate. Only deal with people that enhances your light, shine bright at all times. Avoid joy stealers. Forgive even though it's hard to do sometimes. Forgive because it's not making their life better but yours. Ladies mostly but some men as well, if you get back with your partner after they've had a discretion, don't throw it up every time you get mad. If you can't get past it, keep it moving. Trust me I know, I was on and off with a man for TEN years wondering why it wasn't working. Well duh, I'd taken a man in my bed on repeat that I hadn't forgave and still had a lot of bitterness towards him. I believe time heals all not in a certain order but I believe it eventually the scabs fall off, scars might be left but at least you made it through the war. Excuses will never make you better, but will eventually shake your foundation loose.
Thanks for reading/Blessings to you all
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